Hustle matters

When you want to succeed as bad as you wanna breathe then you will be successful.

Our generation is all about shortcuts. Nobody wants to go all the way. Nobody thinks that matters.

Having a huge and challenging goal (my book) has confirmed for me something I’ve heard a lot of successful people, like Gary Vaynerchuck, speak: effort matters.

Hustle matters.

Spending the night working matters.

Avoiding fun matters.

You have to aim for a balanced life, but if you want to do something exceptional, get ready to struggle. Because it matters.

Once you go over procrastination barrier, which is a daily fight, and you start working… well, it’s an almost zen-like sensation… knowing that you’re putting in the necessary blood, sweat and tears to achieve what you want.

The night ends. The day begins. The hustle starts over. Every day.

So I ask you:

How bad do you want it?

If you don’t want it bad, for real, you’ll quit.

How many ones haven’t achieved what they wanted just because they didn’t keep trying and trying? Why not just put a little more effort? Why run away from the hard work?

That’s why I tell you: run after what you love.

If it’s going to be hard anyway, why don’t just do what you love upfront? Remember that time is something nobody has.

So go ahead,punch in and do some stuff. Maybe a lot of it.

Now I’ll get back to my Work.

Recalibrate Your Communicational Expressions

Let’s say a friend comes to you and say: “Dude, there’s this new restaurant in town, pretty sweet, you should check it out.” Ok, cut. Flash forward. You visit the restaurant and it’s the most awesome-cool-amazing thing that you are aware of in the past century. Nice, huh?

Another friend comes to you and say: “Hey, just found the most coolawesome theater that I’ve ever seen! It’s comfortable, full of nice people, etc etc. Man, you must check it out, like, today. Are you going today? No? Go tomorrow. Please, you need to see that”. Cut, flash forward. You visit the theather and it’s just a slightly cool theather.

Hmm… there’s a problem here.

I don’t have a well-defined theory to explain why this happens, but I got some ideas. In general, people try so hard to turn everything into an awesome thing, like, they can’t living in a regular world, that it’s too damn common the use of hyperbole. And that’s bad, because it messes up the communication: the listener will never take you seriously.

Don’t use words too big for the subject. Don’t say “infinitely” when you mean “very”; otherwise you’ll have no word left when you want to talk about something really infinite. CS Lewis

Another way this comes up is in the internet. Your friend posts something slightly funny, you like it and comment “hahaha”. Another friend posts something still funnier and you like and comment :”hahahahahahhah”. And so on. In the end, to express that you’re laughing hard at something, you’re gonna need a hell of a string of haha’s.

But, the problem is not just in talking and writing: body language counts too. If you usually moves too much, never stops your arms and legs, your movements will be automatically less meaningful for people around you. The same thing for facial expressions.

How to correct this

I noticed all this while reading Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality. All characters expressions are meaningful: maybe because some of them received training in how to manipulate people? That’s why I’m interested in mirroring Draco’s modus operandi (if you haven’t read hpmor yet, make yourself a favor).

Suggestions:

  • Talk less, more slowly and, when you can and it isn’t awkward, make some pauses  in your speech (what helps to create enphasis and in case you’re a second language too). Quoting directly from “Language Hacking Guide”, by Benny Lewis:

For example, if I need a moment to recall the way to say a key word, I could say “I’m going to the…” [raise index finger analytically, take a step back, breath in deeply as if you are about to reveal the secret of life the universe and everything, and look out the window at the quest that awaits you] “… supermarket! Do you need anything?

  • Move your body less; try to communicate single points (like yeah, nay, perhaps) with your face. If possible, search for facial expressions images and practice in front of a mirror.
  • Recalibrate the scale of your adjectives. Not everything is awesome or horrible: on one hand, it can be fine, sweet, cool, interesting, good, really cool etc, and in the other hand: not good, bad, unpleasureble etc.